by Tinker » Tue Aug 24, 2010 1:23 pm
Actually, I think Boomers like Spengler are putting an incredible amount of stress on our generation about this issue. Sure, there is the aspect of being dependent upon parents for a long time. But I think this is just a preparation for extra longevity. I fully suspect my peer group to regularly break 100 or even 120. We're going to live a very long time once you control for avoidable death. If I can get my diet and exercise under control there is no reason for me to expect not to live that long in terms of my health. I know a lot more about physiology than either of my parents, or any of my grandparents. My Uncle is pretty healthy and is very vibrant in his late 50s as a result of a clean-living kick he went on after he kicked the booze in his 30s. My Paternal Grandparents lived into their 70s, as did my Maternal Grandfather. My Maternal Grandmother lived into her mid-nineties. I need to control for diabetes, heart attack, cancer and arthritis. A lot of that can be avoided by better diet, I need to kick the sugary drinks habit most of all. Otherwise my diet isn't horrible.
My generation goes through an extreme amount of stress known as the quarter-life crisis where Boomer Self-Esteem building expectations crush our self-esteem when we learn that we are not masters of the universe out of the box. That indeed we cannot do/be anything we want. As a result we get held back, we don't hustle enough at 25, and then at 30 we are held back because we regret not hustling and all the missed opportunities we had in our twenties. People let small opportunities slip from their grasp because they have an expectation of holding out for something better. And we are constantly inundated with this barrage of messages that if we don't get our careers locked down, we're never going to have another shot. My friend who has a Masters degree is having trouble finding work, and I'm constantly listening to comments like, "I should kiss a beretta.", hopefully it's mainly his black humor and his sardonic wit, but I have known more than one person who has taken their own life. One friend was one of the most dynamic individuals I ever met, by the time he took his life around 25 he had finished the first draft of his book on education reform, had released a couple of Hip Hop albums and was generally where he wanted to be most of the time.
The hippy generation never forgave themselves for not saving the world when they were 25, and as such have pushed that onto us. We're not allowed to have fun at parties because it's nowhere near as cool as the parties THEY had. Though I confess, I've generally partied like it was the 60s. But we're stuck chasing the dragon of false expectations placed upon us by boomer controlled pop-culture. Even the people I know who completed their ten year plans by 28 get stuck in a malaise. One guy is happy that he has done everything he planned to do at 18, and is like, 'now what?', he's one of the more healthy and stable individuals I know. Another guy completed it, had his house, his career, his wife, but then his wife left him, and so that vision is forever shattered.
So I am hoping that most people will come to the conclusions that I've come to. I was getting great jobs just out of High School by virtue of the fact that I'd touched a computer in my life. Then of course all the younguns graduated with their Comp Sci degrees and my three years of experience wasn't more valuable than their degrees and the job market was tough, particularly considering the dotcom bubble bursting in 2000 and then the double-dip after 9/11. But the conclusion I've come to is, "Fuck those expectations, working for my own survival, the survival of my family, and helping those immediately around me is noble enough.", and I think that's a much more adult attitude. But I'm approaching 33, so I'm at the age where we start to become adults these days.
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Tinker on Tue Aug 24, 2010 2:48 pm, edited 1 time in total.
The canary didn't die because this mine is dangerous, it died because it's lazy and wasn't raised with a proper work ethic.