Tinker,
Keep in mind, offense is always in the receiver, not the transmitter.
"Between stimulus and response, man has the ability to choose." Viktor Frankl
As I tell my co-workers, "Tell me what you think! Don't worry about my feelings! My sense of self-esteem is so low you can't hurt my feelings!"
don Juan via Calos Castaneda:
Self-importance is our greatest enemy; think about it. What weakens us is feeling offended by the deeds and misdeeds of our fellow men. Our self-importance requires that we spend most of our lives offended by someone. Without self-importance we are invulnerable. Self-importance can't be fought with niceties.
Self-importance is not only the sorcerers’ supreme energy but the nemesis of mankind.
Most of our energy goes into upholding our self-importance. This is most obvious in our endless worry about the presentation of self, about whether or not we are admired or liked or acknowledged. If we are capable of losing some of that importance, two extraordinary things would happen to us. One, we would free our energy from trying to maintain the illusory idea of our grandeur; and two, we would provide ourselves with enough energy to enter into the second attention to catch a glimpse of the actual grandeur of the universe.
all right, I'm done. If this doesn't work, next time you bum out, I'll bitch slap ya!
